Keeping the dream wedding from becoming a nightmare

It’s no doubt a big, life-changing event when two people publicly profess their love for each other and join their lives together in a new and profound way. Such an occasion is certainly worth celebrating.

This is why it is no surprise that many couples in Asheville and throughout the Carolinas invest lots of time and money to make their weddings unforgettable both for themselves and for their guests, even down to the most intricate details.

Even for a modest ceremony and party, you will have to find a place to have the wedding, locate appropriate attire for you and your wedding party, and will probably want to get a cake, take pictures, and do all the customary wedding things.

However with so many details involved, even in modest weddings, there is also a lot that can go wrong which, if not anticipated, can turn what is supposed to be a dream day into a nightmare.

Be prepared 

Because so many different things can cause a major hitch in one’s wedding plans, it’s important for you and your soon-to-be-spouse, early on, to go through the unpleasant but necessary exercise of coming up with a plan B.

In fact, a you will want to come up with a plan B for every key element of your wedding.

For instance, make sure you have a backup location for the reception should the first one fall through. On a related point, if you are planning an outdoor venue for any part of the wedding, you’ll need an indoor alternative in case the weather decides not to cooperate.

Likewise, make sure to think through what you are going to do if something goes wrong with the cake, the band, or even a member of the wedding party or the officiant.

While it is true that the professionals you hire have an obligation to be there, and certainly your wedding party will (hopefully) commit to attend, you should not assume they will be able to pull through. Having some sort of plan B, even if less than ideal, is better than no backup at all.

Vet the people you choose to work with

While it may be tempting to go with the photographer, baker, or venue provider which offers the best deal or seems available and eager to do the work, it is important not to forget to vet every professional before you sign on the dotted line.

While reputation certainly isn’t everything, a well known firm in Asheville, like Blue Bend Photography — for wedding photography— or Classic Event Rental— for furnishing wedding supplies like furniture and dishes— is more likely to be reliable on the big day.

After all, no wedding vendor is going to last long enough in the business to get any reputation at all unless it has a track record of showing up and getting the job done.

But going beyond reputation, you should also make sure to both check the references the vendor provides you and speak with at least one couple that used the vendor but that is not on the vendor’s referral list.

Finally, make sure you ask the vendor detailed questions aimed at making certain they can give you what you want at your wedding.

Even well-known vendors aren’t the right fit for everyone, after all, and a few pointed but polite questions can head off profound misunderstandings down the road.

Consider hiring a wedding coordinator 

Wedding have gotten to be such large productions, with so many different moving parts, that they are a lot like building a house.

Most of the time,  you would hire a contractor to keep track of the electrician, the carpenter, the plumber, and everyone else building your dream home.

Likewise, it’s not a bad idea to hire a wedding coordinator who will use his or her expertise to find you the right vendors and make your special day go as smoothly as possible. And, should something go wrong, you don’t have to deal with the vendors directly; that’s what the wedding coordinator is for.

Purchase wedding insurance 

Sometimes, even the best planned weddings still go horribly wrong, oftentimes for reasons beyond anyone’s control. Fortunately, many insurance companies offer wedding coverage.

Although it can’t undo a wedding day gone bad, wedding insurance will at least reimburse the out-of-pocket losses a couple and their families might experience should an unexpected event put a damper on the big day.